Dare to Believe

By , June 12, 2013 4:32 pm

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

Napoleon Hill, Author, Think and Grow Rich.

Have you ever noticed that sometimes the last person to believe in you is… YOU?

Everyone else can see your potential shining out yet you can’t see it yourself? Instead self-doubt holds you back and you cling to old limiting beliefs. You’re waiting for that moment of FULL confidence and complete control of the situation before you will move towards it.

It doesn’t work that way…The feeling of confidence and being in control never shows up… So you wait and cling on and stay stuck in the same place.

I’ve been through this many times in my own life, especially when making a big transition. My own self-doubt has left me indecisively clinging to edge with white knuckles. I may let go with one hand, but self-doubt holds me back. Sometimes it feels like I just can’t let go…even though I want to be successful.

In my experience as a learning consultant and coach, most people fail not because of a lack of capability to reach their goal, but because they simply don’t believe that they can achieve it. They don’t see their own value and worth. They can’t visualize their own success.

This lack of belief leads to hesitant attempts, you dip a toe in, but you don’t commit fully. You start looking for evidence to support your limiting beliefs. If you believe that something is impossible, then you’ll not give it your all to make it happen – So it won’t happen because it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The mind is so powerful.

Here’s the deal…

The only person who is really stopping you is…YOU!

1. Believing in yourself is a choice. You have to believe that you can do it and re-set your mind. Seriously – the choice of what you believe is up to YOU! Read, practice and get good at whatever you’re wanting to achieve.

2. Full decision on your part to be there. You have to decide and take FULL responsibility for stepping in and getting started. 100% commitment and no excuses! If you act as if it were possible, then you will get things done that move you towards your goal. You’ll start getting results. Be Imperfectly Perfect – it’s quite liberating!

3. Stop blaming the past. You can’t change the past, but you CAN influence the future starting today! Some limiting beliefs are passed on from families and social groups, even work environments. Don’t use this as an excuse to stay stuck.

4. It requires ALL your energy to be there. Energy goes where attention flows… Ensure that your energy is focused on positive self-talk, affirmations and on achieving a result. Don’t allow it to be distracted by any Lizard Brain activities.

5. Watch Your Language – My English teacher taught me that there was ‘no such word as CAN’T!’ She would cross it out if we wrote it in our essays. Believing in yourself begins with the power of the language that you use both internally and externally. Listen to your language and BAN any leaky language such as ‘I can’t…’ ‘I wish I could…’ ‘I’ll never be able to…’ These words are disempowering and suck your energy. They reinforce your negative limiting beliefs. Replace them with positive language that inspires confidence such as ‘I can…’ ‘I will…’

YOU really CAN achieve whatever you want … if you DARE to believe!

 

2 Responses to “Dare to Believe”

  1. Natalie says:

    Elaine, how kind of you to write a blog post especially for me! ;o)

  2. elaine says:

    Hey! You’re so welcome! :-)

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