How to Give Up Your Excuses

By , May 1, 2013 5:52 pm

 

“The difference between who you are and who you want to be…is what you do…”

~Author Unknown

Doubts and fears often get in the way of us realising our goals and dreams. We ride the tide of feeling empowered only to be washed ashore by fear and doubt. The voice in our head provides a rich dialogue of excuses of why we should give up right now.

Excuses reinforce our limiting beliefs.

So our thinking keeps us stuck as we loop around in the flotsam and jetsam often without us realising it. Each day we are unconditionally programmed to think the same thoughts and habitual patterns over and over again!

Here are some of the common excuses I’ve experienced with my clients. (Maybe you’ll recognise a few, I certainly do :)

“I don’t have the time…”
“I’m too set in my ways…”
“I’m too old (or too young)…”
“I’m not good enough…”
“I’ll take too long…”
“I don’t deserve it…”
“I can’t afford it…”
“My family/partner won’t like it…”
“I’m too busy…”
“It’s too risky…”
“The rules say I can’t do it…”
“I’m too scared…”
“I can’t do it alone…”
“I’m not fit enough…”
“It’s too difficult…”
“No one has ever done it this way before…”
“It’s not in my nature…”

Excuses are NOT the truth, but if you allow yourself to become hooked by your thinking, then the situation feels hopeless.

Our habitual mind consciously runs the show using a lifelong wealth of old thinking patterns and habits.

I believe that you have a choice over everything that you think, say and do. You can create new habits and patterns. As Dr Wayne W Dyer explains:

“When you abandon making choices, you enter a vast world of excuses.”

…It’s about choosing instead of excusing!

Changing unwanted thinking and behaviour, as we know, is possible and REALLY… It doesn’t have to take months to re-programme your thinking. You can choose to access your habitual thinking and begin to re-program any thinking that no longer serves you.

Here’s how you can begin this process and become someone who no longer relies upon excuses…

  1. Become a ‘Student of You’ – To break old habits you firstly need to become aware of them. Excuses always give you a way out. Tap into the auto pilot in your mind. Start paying attention to any limitations you are putting on yourself. Observe your thoughts and the feelings associated with them. Write them down. Notice when these thoughts and feelings feel out of alignment with who you really are. Self-awareness enables you to access your authentic self.
  2. Is it true? – The more we understand ourselves, the greater ability we develop to move beyond problems by growing through them, rather than using excuses and becoming locked in fixed thinking. Excuses aren’t the truth they are simply thoughts that hold you back. Excuses can cause you to lie to yourself. Ask yourself this question for each excuse statement: Is this true? Challenge yourself. By creating a new belief that this might not be 100% true, you can open up new possibilities and options to explore.
    • Can you be certain that the information you’ve been relying on is accurate?
    • What evidence do you have?
    • Can you invalidate this excuse?
    • How do you know it’s true?
  3. Take responsibility – Claim responsibility back for your own life. Who or what do you want to be? Who are you living your life for? Is it for you? You can’t change the actions of other people but you can always take responsibility and choose your own. You can’t change the past but you can shape your future through the NOW! Choose to create some thought transitions that help you to consciously create your best life. Most of your excuses come from YOU. You get to choose what you do, what you say and how you act.
  4. Be kind yourself – Let go of the past and accept where you are now. Resisting, complaining or judging only prolongs the pain and keeps you stuck. Accept your previous excuses as okay – it’s just want you used to do until Today! Many of our excuses are deeply entrenched and originated from our early life. Remember, you did the best you could then with the resources you had and it’s okay. You didn’t know at the time that there were other choices available to you. Forgive yourself and others for your previous conditioning. Become blame-free.

 

8 Responses to “How to Give Up Your Excuses”

  1. Kate Atkin says:

    Hi Elaine, I come across this list of excuses too and it’s so helpful to have them listed to be recognised as such. Great article. Here’s to choosing! Best wishes Kate

  2. elaine says:

    Hey Kate!

    Thanks for stopping by and for the feedback. Hope all is GREAT with you :-)

  3. Tom Brown says:

    Good article Elaine and well worth sharing, thank you :-)

  4. elaine says:

    Thanks Tom!

  5. Al says:

    Excuses??? This is my life blood, my constant chatter to myself….

  6. Elaine says:

    So… you’re admitting that you have voices in your head Al?! ;-)

  7. Nadine says:

    Great blog to read just when you need to read it… thanks

  8. elaine says:

    Thanks so much for stopping by and giving me this feedback Nadine – Here’s to your Brilliant Success! :)

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