5 Ways to Tame Your Inner Lizard

By , September 26, 2010 1:09 am

“Deep within your brain lies the amygdala, the lizard brain. It sets out to sabotage anything that feels threatening, risky or generous. Until you name, recognise, and deal with the resistance, you will stay frustrated.”

Seth Godin, Author.

Meet George…

Don’t be fooled by his cute looks because George is an evil little bugger and has very sharp teeth.

George has spent his entire life resisting anything important I’ve ever wanted to do. When cornered he fights dirty by disabling me both physically and emotionally!

So who exactly is George?

‘George Amygdala’ is the name that I give my lizard brain. The limbic or lizard is the most primitive part of our brain. It evolved millions of years ago and is in charge of our fight, flight and freeze responses.

The newest part of our brain to evolve is called the neocortex is responsible for rational thinking, speech, consciousness and creativity.

The lizard brain triggers responses 500 times faster than a thought. It’s also closest to the chemicals that generate our emotions. So before you’ve thought something, you’ve reacted! If there’s an emergency then our lizard brain takes over to protect itself when our basic survival needs are threatened.

This is great in a life and death situation.

But not during a presentation…

Huh?!

Your Lizard brain can’t tell the difference between real or perceived danger. If something makes us feel uncomfortable then our lizard brain will resist.

A friend delivered a presentation skills course where a delegate had a real fear of presenting. She stood up to present and passed out. The fear of presenting was so real, that her lizard brain pulled the biological plug (She was okay and successfully beat her fear).

The lizard brain flicks the ‘off-switch’ on the weaker neocortex if we feel that our basic needs are threatened (fear, anger, arousal, revenge or hunger). We become stuck in the lizard brain which generates flight, fight or freeze through a raft of emotions such as shame, guilt, fear and envy.  Rational thinking is replaced by fragmented limiting or negative beliefs:

“See, you were stupid to even try that!”

“You should have listened to me in the first place!”

“You’re always going to be crap with money!”

“These people hate you!”

“Who do you think you are?”

Emotions such as shame, narrow the lens and paralyse you. Triggered and hooked by the voice inside your head (George) you falsely believe these messages to be true.

Here are 5 ways to tame your lizard:

1. Name it – Give your lizard a name and write a description of him/her. Draw a picture of your lizard and keep it as a visible reminder. Using humour is a great way to be able to flick the ‘on-switch’ in your neocortex.

2. Self-Awareness – Start to notice when your lizard is running the show. List your limiting and negative beliefs. Your lizard is fuelled by lack and attack fears. Use a journal to write down your top ten lizard messages (like the examples above). Just know that this is part of our biology!

3. Find your neocortex ‘On-Switch’ – The neocortex is where you become rational and logical. Here you know that your thinking is not true. Learn how to re-frame your limiting beliefs so you can turn them around.

4. Get comfortable with uncomfortable – Our lizard brain seeks comfort so it can feel safe. To grow and be successful you need to go out of your way to be uncomfortable. Discomfort means that you’re stepping outside of your comfort zone and this brings change, growth and engagement.

5. Understand Fear – Fear is a powerful hardwired emotion. It has kept our ancestors alive. Today we are often worried more about criticism than fear. Fear makes us take hesitant attempts. Think your way out of fear by getting clear on what you want and take action. The reality is that you will fail sometimes, but you can’t fail to learn. Successful people learn from failure, not that they shouldn’t have tried but how they can try it differently next time. Don’t give up!

What do you call your lizard?

15 Responses to “5 Ways to Tame Your Inner Lizard”

  1. Isabella says:

    I’ve named my lizard Lois. I think I need to take her out for a few Tequila shots and get her to chill out! Love this post Elaine!

  2. Anna says:

    Love the post…thinking a of a name for mine! Feeding her chocolate at the moment.

  3. elaine says:

    Hi Lois! Cheers!

    Lizards LOVE chocolate – I think it helps make them snooze!

  4. elaine says:

    Anna you could call yours ‘French Broad!’ ;-)

  5. I gave my lizard a bottle of ambien. Things are quiet around here. Good Article

  6. elaine says:

    Thanks Colleen – you were my inspiration for this post at our recent mastermind on miami beach! :-) I’ll try ambien with George!

  7. Mackie says:

    Going through I particularly high anxiety moment, I read your post. I took my white board outside, drew my frilled lizard (her name is Prissy ala Gone With the Wind) and began listing ALL my fears and the whys. Filled the entire board. Erased it all…and ahhhh..Prissy was sound asleep. Thanks for the wisdom, Elaine!

  8. elaine says:

    Mackie thanks for stopping by and sharing this – Glad to know that Prissy is snoozing soundly!

    George would say ‘hi’ but he’s snoozing too! :-)

  9. Tony says:

    Great Post – This describes how I feel – a little something holds me back from success. I’m committed to changing that.

  10. [...] Blame the other person – It’s easy to allow your Inner Lizard to take over and react to this ‘attack.’ You become aggressive, hostile and defensive. You [...]

  11. [...] self-talk, affirmations and on achieving a result. Don’t allow it to be distracted by any Lizard Brain [...]

  12. Steve says:

    Ive decided to call my Lizard Mark (after an ex-boss) – though I often think he’s more dinosaur than lizard.
    Thanks Elaine – I can now look at Mark and put him in his place :-)
    No lizards were harmed during the making of this post.

  13. elaine says:

    Hi Steve – Glad Mark has finally got a name! (…oh! and that no lizards were harmed! ;-) ) It was awesome to work with you yesterday!

  14. [...] Get out of your own way. Recognise the voices in your head as naysayers who are not real! Change your thinking because it will change your results. Check the [...]

  15. [...] mentors and guides like Elaine Bailey, who shines the light so that others can find their own [...]

Leave a Reply

Current month ye@r day *

©2010 by Elaine Bailey International Ltd
(Registered Address: PO Box 250 88 Pavilion Way Meltham Holmfirth HD9 9BL; No: 7015168).
All rights reserved.
Website by WhizzLiz