Working Through Your Growing Pains

By , June 12, 2010 10:57 am

“We have an innate desire to endlessly learn, grow and develop. We want to become more than what we already are. Once we yield this inclination for continuous and never-ending improvement, we lead a life of endless accomplishments and satisfaction.”

Chuck Gallozzi

Human beings have a natural desire to grow. Growth is all about meaning, making progress, satisfaction and accomplishment. It gives us a feeling of expansion, improvement and purpose.

Today’s world is very fast paced where continual growth and improvement is necessary to survive the rapid pace of change. Sometimes we can feel that change is thrust upon us and this brings with it a certain level of anxiety and stress. Growing stops because we spend more time reacting to the busy-ness of life.

Consider for a moment what you want to add to your life that is not there now. I believe that you can only achieve this through your own personal growth. People who actively set out to improve their knowledge, skills and behaviour, whether this is at work or at home have a better chance of long term success.

Yet sometimes people stop growing because they get lost in the fog of their own conditioning. You stop growing and start stagnating.

You might get stuck in the past, perhaps a missed opportunity, where your mind replays the tape of what should have happened, or how something went wrong. You become stuck in the rut of working that dead-end boring job. Days become unfulfilling because you get locked into the ritual of your own conditioning, like a wheel stuck in a rut: Go to work, stay there until 5pm, come home, eat, watch mind numbing crap on television, go to bed, then start the day all over again. It’s hard to find a way out and this can go on for years.

We settle and survive.

Major improvements don’t happen overnight, growth takes time and persistence. It’s easy to give up because the busy world around us conditions us into expecting instant results. Most of us struggle with growing pains at various times in our life. It’s easy to begin something and then give up because growing pains can make us feel like we’ve failed. You might be feeling stuck, need encouragement or direction.

Little and often… It’s important to begin small.

I have found that if you make a commitment to growing and do a little every day, you create momentum and you grow over time. Your learning is constant and not overwhelming. You start enjoying it!

Setting aside some each day to read a book, attend a weekly class, watch a video or read a blog helps you to increase your knowledge, hone your skills or change your behaviour in small chunks. Over time this creates depth and breath. Everything you do is building block to your growth and success. Engage in the process of continuous improvement by becoming a Student of You.

Continual growth brings many benefits such as improved confidence, increased self-esteem and self-worth. Success is a positive by-product. These positively impact your life and the lives of people you interact with. It’s really worth the effort.

Trust me – It’s amazing how working through your growing pains can really improve your thinking and behaviour. People will start to notice how you have changed in a positive way and ask you how you’ve done it!

Begin to recognise your growing pains and start working through them…

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