I’m writing this post in Scottsdale Arizona after delivering a Keynote Speech at the 4th Annual NICU Therapists Development Conference.
The title of my talk was:
“Are you in Business or in Busy-ness? 4 ways to get your life back on purpose.”
After the speech, we hung around chatting about busy-ness and overwhelm and how it creeps into our lives. Busy-ness seems to be everywhere!
Today, the pace of life seems faster: we all have so much to do, ‘plates to spin’ and so many roles to play. Sometimes we feel that we are just settling and surviving. We become too focused on getting things done, rather than actually living life and enjoying it.
I found this quote recently and it really got me thinking:
“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I live just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.”
I don’t just want to live the length and width of my life, I also want to live the depth of it. I see this as developing my wisdom, my inner self and listening to that deeper voice within. I know I can achieve this through conscious living: living on purpose. Life isn’t just about ticking boxes and getting stuff done!
What is busy-ness?
- It’s the unconscious stuff (‘do-do’) that I focus our time effort and energy on, which serves no value or purpose, except just to keep me busy!
- It’s when I’m living my life unconsciously and not on purpose.
- It’s never getting around to those things that are important to me, that I value.
- It makes me work longer hours just to get things done.
- It’s anything that takes me away from the true ‘business’ of the day: what you I’m trying to achieve.
- It’s when I’m too ‘busy’ with being busy to focus on my important relationships.
- It’s doing everything for everyone else and nothing for myself.
- It’s when I’m just settling and surviving.
- It’s when I’m waiting to be rescued from all this ‘stuff’ (Where is that knight in shining armour?).
- It’s when I never get any time or space for myself.
- It’s when I feel out of control in my life.
- It’s when I often neglect my own needs (health and well-being).
- It’s when I’m avoiding making some important decisions in my life. I add more ‘stuff’ to try to fix the problem instead.
- It’s when I notice that I don’t laugh as much as I used to.
- It’s when everything is a crisis in my life – I’m constantly reacting.
- It’s when I spend most evenings just watching TV to escape my busy life.
- It’s when I have so much that I want to do, I don’t know where to begin, so I don’t begin.
- It’s when I know there’s more to life – I’m stuck with what to do about it.
- It’s saying ‘yes’ when I really want to say ‘no’.
- It’s when I’m tired of rescuing everyone else all the time. I want to be rescued too!
Do you recognise any of these?
Busy-ness really doesn’t care. It looks for the cracks and fires out its tentacles to weave it’s way into your life and takes control.