Category: Visualization

Dare to Believe

By , February 21, 2011 11:13 pm

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

Napoleon Hill, Author, Think and Grow Rich.

Have you ever noticed that sometimes the last person to believe in you is… YOU?

Everyone else can see your potential shining out yet you can’t see it yourself? Instead self-doubt holds you back and you cling to old limiting beliefs. You’re waiting for that moment of FULL confidence and complete control of the situation before you will move towards it.

It doesn’t work that way…The feeling of confidence and being in control never shows up… So you wait and cling on and stay stuck in the same place.

I’ve been through this many times in my own life, especially when making a big transition. My own self-doubt has left me indecisively clinging to edge with white knuckles. I may let go with one hand, but self-doubt holds me back. Sometimes it feels like I just can’t let go…even though I want to be successful.

In my experience, as a learning consultant and coach, most people fail not because of a lack of capability to reach their goal but because they simply don’t believe that they can achieve it. They don’t see their own value and worth. They can’t visualize their own success.

This lack of belief leads to hesitant attempts, you dip a toe in, but you don’t commit fully. You start looking for evidence to support your limiting beliefs. If you believe that something is impossible, then you’ll not give it your all to make it happen – So it won’t happen because it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The mind is so powerful.

Here’s the deal…

The only person who is really stopping you is…YOU!

1. Believing in yourself is a choice. You have to believe that you can do it and re-set your mind. Seriously – the choice of what you believe is up to YOU! Read, practice and get good at whatever you’re wanting to achieve.

2. Full decision on your part to be there. You have to decide and take FULL responsibility for stepping in and getting started. 100% commitment and no excuses! If you act as if it were possible, then you will get things done that move you towards your goal. You’ll start getting results. Be Imperfectly Perfect – it’s quite liberating!

3. Stop blaming the past. You can’t change the past, but you CAN influence the future starting today! Some limiting beliefs are passed on from families and social groups, even work environments. Don’t use this as an excuse to stay stuck.

4. It requires ALL your energy to be there. Energy goes where attention flows… Ensure that your energy is focused on positive self-talk, affirmations and on achieving a result. Don’t allow it to be distracted by any Lizard Brain activities.

5. Watch Your Language – My English teacher taught me that there was ‘no such word as CAN’T!’ She would cross it out if we wrote it in our essays. Believing in yourself begins with the power of the language that you use both internally and externally. Listen to your language and BAN any leaky language such as ‘I can’t…’ ‘I wish I could…’ ‘I’ll never be able to…’ These words are disempowering and suck your energy. They reinforce your negative limiting beliefs. Replace them with positive language that inspires confidence such as ‘I can…’  ‘I will…’

YOU really CAN achieve whatever you want … if you DARE to believe!

Get Aligned with YOUR Vision

By , November 6, 2010 6:21 pm

Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”

Albert Einstein, Nobel Peace Prize Winner.

“Can you come coach me in my office? Something awful has just happened. I can’t believe I’ve been so stupid. I’m going to lose my job in two weeks time!”

As I walked to John’s office, I had no idea what had happened, but it sounded VERY serious.

I found him slumped in his chair, head in his hands, sweating and looking very uncomfortable. Normally he was an assertive (occasionally aggressive!) and passionate leader. He had just come off the phone with his CEO who had asked him to present his business strategy to the global board of directors in two weeks time.

So what was the problem?

John was recently promoted to a senior position in the company. He had delivered presentations to his team and peers many times.

He was scared of ‘formal’ presentations and had developed a limiting belief over several years. When I arrived at his office, he had already allowed his imagination to create vivid pictures, sounds and feelings of how badly his presentation would be received. They would question his ability as a senior executive. He would be seen as a fraud and lose his job. The following tape constantly re-played in his head:

As he was presenting the other executives glared at him in disbelief. He could hear them whispering ‘how did this guy get to this level without knowing how to present?!’ ‘He’s talking rubbish!’ He felt stupid, vulnerable and exposed.

John was visualizing his failure. The voices in his head were working overtime. He’d sub-consciously set his goal to lose his job in two weeks time!

Here’s the thing…

One of the most under used powerful tools that we have is our ability to visualize things in our mind. We’re often very good at visualizing the negative stuff and then creating our self fulfilling prophecy of doom.

You also have the ability to visualize success because it actives the creative powers of your sub-conscious mind. Seeing your goal already successfully completed.

Have you ever seen a car that you really liked and then found that you keep seeing that model everywhere?

Our mind doesn’t think linearly, it thinks in pictures.

Creating mental pictures of what you want really focuses your attention on your intention. It becomes real in our minds.

In the car example, what was happening was that the ‘want’ of this car activated your subconscious mind. Your mind filter or RAS (Reticular Activating System) opens up to notice the car that was previously unnoticed. Energy goes where attention flows – so the car is everywhere!

Visualization is a powerful tool because it enables you to see your intention (destination). It strengthens your focus and clarity on your end result. It attracts you towards the people and resources that you need to achieve your success.

I coached John to help him visualize success and build his confidence. He changed his intention from ‘I’m going to lose my job in two weeks time!’ to ‘This is the best presentation I’ve ever delivered.’

1.    Get clear on your vision – what do you want?

2.    Set aside some time EVERY DAY to visualize your goal already complete. 10 – 15 minutes a day is all you need. Create a ritual first thing in the morning or last thing at night before you turn off the light. Keep your vision of success on your radar.

3.    Intensify your visualization of success by adding sensations. Use the senses to bring it to life. What does it look like? What does it sound like? What does it feel like? What does it smell like? What does it taste like?

4.    Create a Vision Board – A Vision Board is a great visual tool to collect pictures of the things that you want to be, do or have. For example, a new car, a trip to the beach, a new home, a pet or a relationship, be healthy, lose weight etc… You glue each picture to a poster board and put them up somewhere you can see them daily. Through these pictures you get to enjoy your desires and bring them closer to you. It’s amazing how powerful this exercise can be. If you want to read more sign up for Christine Kane’s free guide in her Create Your Life Kick-Start There’s a box at the top right hand side of her blog!

Visualization really works!

It makes your brain achieve more. You can use this every day to improve your performance and make you more successful.

“Get aligned with your VISION and PULL your success to you!”

Christine Kane, Mentor to Women Who are Changing the World

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