Category: Grief

How Loss Creates Life (and Growth)…

By , January 5, 2012 11:23 am

“Death is not the opposite of life. Life has no opposite. The opposite of death is birth. Life is eternal.”

~ Eckhart Tolle –Author of Stillness Speaks

A few weeks ago I was hiking in the New Forest in Hampshire, UK. We came across a large patch of ground that was scorched and burnt. Tree stumps and gorse bushes were blackened and destroyed. A fire had ravaged here only few weeks before reducing this part of the forest to charred and twisted branches. Everything looked dead.

This made me feel sad.

As we walked closer I was amazed to see small green shoots already growing out of the ashes and charred forest floor! There was a small carpet of green. In such a short space of time Nature had got things covered and the earth was already pushing out new life…

Nature is a great source for a lesson in life!

Think about it for a moment…

Imagine how brutal and devastating that fire was. How the trees and bushes were destroyed so quickly. In the aftermath of death the earth creates life. Shoots burst through the soil and new bushes and trees begin to grow towards the sky again. This is what happens. It’s a cycle.

This is life and this is just what we do too.

Here’s how I see it…

When someone dies the loss of that person (furry or human) creates a huge space in our hearts. This vacuum is like fertile soil. It is filled like the forest floor offering up new seeds of hope, possibilities and growth. It can take time and it certainly feels raw and painful for a while. These are the healing and growing pains that create our new sea of green. We create life and are part of the same cycle.

I have experienced much loss in the last eight months. Losing my cat (Ashley) recently really made me question why would I ever want to put myself through all this pain and upset again?  A good friend reminded me that grief is part of life. Letting go is like the fire – all things have to die this vacuum is filled with more love if you’ll allow it in. You have an unlimited capacity to love again. For me, I know there will be another kitty to fill that new space in my heart when the time is right. Ashley has been a wise teacher he taught me about the true gift of giving and receiving unconditional love.

Death is a natural part of life and it’s normal to feel loss, sadness and pain. It’s okay to cry. Whenever it approaches open up you heart and walk through it – Remember the opposite of death is birth that is the true gift.

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