What do YOU believe?

By , August 1, 2010 10:30 pm

“You can have anything you want if you will give up the belief that you can’t have it.”

Dr Robert Anthony, Self Help Author

I’ve recently been working with several coaching clients who have been identifying and blasting through some of their limiting beliefs.

A belief is something that we accept as true. We don’t question it. A belief has the power to keep us stuck where we are or to take us to where we want to go.

You don’t have to look far to see the impact of beliefs. Here are a couple of examples.

A few centuries ago our ancestors believed that the world was flat. The fear of falling off the end of the earth inhibited movement and exploration.

As a child, I remember putting so much effort into being really good in the lead up to Christmas because of my belief in Santa Claus! I was also frightened to be awake in case I saw him delivering my presents because he might take them away again!

Beliefs are powerful and they influence our behaviour. We create rituals, habits and patterns around them.

We begin to form beliefs in early life from the influences around us: our parents, role models, teachers and social groups. Today we also have strong influences from the media on what we should believe. I know people who totally believe everything that is written in their newspaper!

Beliefs begin their life as thoughts. If these thoughts are replayed over time they eventually become beliefs. We sub-consciously gather evidence to support our beliefs and  become conditioned to accepting our beliefs as factual and true. We never question them and find comfort in this conditioning even if it’s dis-empowering!

Our limiting beliefs can actually prevent our growth because we accept them as the truth.

Here’s the thing…

Our beliefs can also motivate us to grow and achieve our desires and dreams. They act as powerful filters on how we experience the world.

Here are some ways to help you recognise any limiting beliefs you might have created in your life:

  1. Self awareness –Write down your beliefs. Knowing them is extremely important. Some will be empowering and some dis-empowering. What do you believe to be true in your life? How does this impact your success? Knowing your beliefs will help you to recognise how they can influence your outcomes.
  1. Address any dis-empowering beliefs – Our past affects the present and the future. These beliefs can limit or destroy any chance of success. Consider your own time line. We have an amazing ability to project the past onto a future event and create a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom before we’ve even taken any action! Try re-framing this belief. Take a step back and dis-associate yourself from the situation. What advice would you give your best friend? Remember limiting beliefs are just sticky thoughts that have been replayed so often they have solidified. Challenge your limiting beliefs.
  1. Watch your language! – Language is the window to your belief systems. Language helped to create your thinking in the first place! Listen to your language around your dis-empowering beliefs.

Here are some examples of language that is often associated with dis-empowering beliefs:

  • “I can’t…”
  • “I’ll fail again…”
  • “I’m not worthy…”
  • “I’m not good enough…”
  • “Yea…but…”
  • “But I’m not like them…”
  • “It won’t work for me.”
  • “I’ve tried this before.”
  • “They think I’m useless.”

This language is scary because it feels real. Dis-empowering beliefs are like sharks beneath the surface of the ocean, circling and swarming. Sharks are ruthless killing machines. Dis-empowering beliefs are like sharks because they kill your dreams. They limit your potential by creating interference.

With this language in your head it’s easy to just give up when the first obstacle appears.

Recognise when this is happening and choose different language to help you move through your dis-comfort.

What beliefs are showing up for you just now? Are they holding you back from achieving your desires and dreams?

Give yourself permission to challenge your own thinking!

4 Responses to “What do YOU believe?”

  1. Great post, Elaine! I think the simple step of realizing that we are not our beliefs is such a huge breakthrough! Thanks for the inspiration!

  2. Hi Laura! Thanks – you’re so right. It’s quite liberating when you get to realise this.

  3. Lance says:

    I LOVE what you’ve shared here! It reminds me of something I all too easily do myself – and that is in using the words “try” and “maybe” –> which can all too easily give me an out…and really limit me. And this really ties into the idea of self-awareness too, and how now that I am aware…I focus on using other words (although I still slip sometimes…).

    Anyway, wonderful thoughts here today!

  4. Thanks for stopping by Lance and for your lovely comments

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